This comment from Larry S-
I bought a bunch of copies of the Deadly Ink Anthology to give to relatives and then got nervous because my language in my stories is so bad. Then I saw a bio of Stephen King and found out he was ashamed to show his mother he was successfully publishing work because all of his stories were being purchased by raunchy skin magazines. It made me feel better. Better enough to even send a copy to my spinster aunt. I guess one cannot spend one’s formative years in Hackensack and expect to emerge untarnished. I sure have enjoyed the Deadly Ink experience.
Larry, you bring up an important and seldom-mentioned point. Some crime writers have warm supportive friends, family and social groups that understand most writers’ interest in crime exists solely in the mind. They are not rendered suspicious of writers by reading a crime story, and they aren’t about to question their morals or motives.
Then we have the rest of us.
As an editor, I’ve heard some real doozy stories of paranoid friends, family and other readers giving major blowback to crime writers. So if you have slightly skittish relations, or friends who never read the genre, it can be a good idea to “spare them” the gory reading and limit discussion of your crime writing to those you absolutely know are going to be cool about it.
The way I look at it is, do you take friends and family with you to work? Do they get a chance to look over your shoulder and comment on how you’re balancing a column of numbers or soldering a piece of metal? No? Then why should they automatically have the right to judge or criticize you as a writer? Friends are friends, family is family, and what you write is your business.